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What people affected by eating disorders want you to know

We asked people affected by eating disorders – either by experiencing it themselves, or through looking after a loved one – what three things would you like everyone to know about eating disorders . Some clear themes emerged around the common misunderstandings and lack of awareness surrounding eating disorders.

You can’t tell if someone has an eating disorder just by looking at them.”

– person with lived experience (survey respondent)

Those with experience of an eating disorder themselves

What they said

What we heard

There were common themes from many respondents in terms of what they wanted people to know about eating disorders some of these address misunderstandings about eating disorders. This included that weight or appearance does not indicate severity, that eating disorders aren’t just about food but are serious complex mental health illnesses. It’s also clear that eating disorders impact every area of their lives, that they aren’t a choice and can happen to anyone regardless of their age, gender, sexuality, ethnicity and background. And there is no one size fits all when it comes to treatment and recovery. But there is hope - we also heard about the importance of early intervention, and that recovery is possible.

You are not alone

person with experience of supporting someone with an eating disorder (survey respondent)

Those who’ve looked after a loved one with an eating disorder

What they said

What we heard 

Those supporting some with an eating disorder want you to know that eating disorders are not a choice, it’s not about “just eating”. They are serious mental health conditions that can affect the whole family. You can feel helpless but you are not alone - there is support out there.. There is always hope for recovery and it is possible for everyone.

Here are some top tips from our survey responses:

  1. It takes time, understanding and patience – recovery cannot be rushed and isn’t linear.  Be patient, kind and non-judgemental both to your loved one and yourself.
  2. Seek Support – reach out for help and support from organisations like Beat. Connect with others with similar experiences. You are not alone.
  3. Educate yourself, listen and talk to your loved one and professionals this can make a big difference by helping you build strategies to support your loved one. Our website has lots of information about eating disorders to help with this.
  4. Make time for yourself – it’s important to look after your own mental health and practice self-care so you can be the best support to your loved one
  5. No blame – this is not your fault or their fault.

Remember that there is hope and recovery is possible. Our services are here for you when you need them.

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